Between Ecstasy and the Abyss: When Spirituality Becomes an Escape

I met her in Spain during a facilitator training for Kundalini energy. She was radiant, driven, and deeply convinced that she had found the key to ultimate happiness. But looking back today at our encounter and her path, I don’t see an awakening. I see one of the most extreme examples of spiritual bypassing I’ve ever witnessed.

The Pull of High Frequencies

It all began with Life Force Activation sessions. The intense frequencies of the music and the altered states of consciousness affected her like a drug. A dangerous belief quickly formed: true transformation only happens “up there”—in ecstasy, in trance, in the transcendent.

Ordinary life, with all its edges, imperfections, and mundane responsibilities, began to feel inferior.

The Radicality of “Frequency Separation”

The first major rupture happened in her personal life. Overnight, she left her husband. The reason? He no longer matched her “frequency.” What from the outside looked like a harsh and abrupt breakup was internally framed as “spiritual growth.”

This is the core of bypassing: instead of facing the difficult, human emotions of a relationship crisis, the separation is spiritualized. One doesn’t face reality—one simply “floats away.” Accompanied by phrases like: “It’s meant to be, you’ll see, everything will be fine.”

When the Search Ends in Collapse

The journey continued—always chasing the next high, the next level. From Spain to Latin America, from meditation to intense psychedelics like “Blue Frog.” But a nervous system pushed to its limits through constant activation eventually gave in. The result was a psychotic break.

For most people, the moment when parents have to fly in and bring their child back from abroad to a psychiatric clinic in Germany would be a wake-up call. A moment of clarity: I am not enlightened, I am unwell. I am not transformed, I am traumatized.

The Refusal to Land

What is most striking, however, is the present. Despite hospitalization and psychiatric medication, the insight never came. In her reality, she is not unwell—others simply fail to understand the cosmic necessity of her suffering.

Today, she lives in Mexico and once again offers retreats. She guides others into the very states that once led her to the edge. One could say due to the fact she expereiened exactly this edge she must be predistined to guide others and still is she running away from home and from where the origin of the suffering is located. We are all coming from our original families and as long as we are refusing to work trough our family conflicts it is a simple escape.

What We Can Learn

This case painfully illustrates how deeply rooted spiritual bypassing can be. It becomes the ultimate defense mechanism:

The ego uses spirituality as armor.Any external criticism is dismissed as “low vibration.”Any real pain is reframed as “part of the divine plan.”

To me, true spirituality is no longer about how high we can rise, but how well we are able to land here on earth—with all our wounds, our psyche, and our responsibility toward others. The moment we stop trying to breathe away our pain is the moment real healing begins.

 -Submitted anonymously

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